Cesarean Mothers Circle
An online support group for mothers who had emotionally difficult or traumatic cesarean births.
We can be grateful for our baby and still feel grief, sadness, and anger about the way we birthed or how we were treated during our birth.
Mainstream culture tells mothers that what matters is a healthy baby and healthy mother…
Many of us accept this narrative. If we had a healthy baby, or even a live baby, we are told to be grateful.
So we swallow any sadness or disappointments about our birth. Not wanting to appear ungrateful for the amazing tiny miracle in our arms. Not wanting to be a “bad mother” by “focusing on the negative”…
But if you longed for a vaginal birth and instead had a cesarean, you deserve a safe space to feel this loss and it’s impact on your life, your body, and your future pregnancy/birth.
Confusion. Grief. Loss. Maybe you feel like your needs were ignored. Maybe you feel like your body failed you. Maybe you feel mislead by your provider. Maybe you had trouble bonding or breastfeeding as a result of your cesarean.
Or, maybe, you feel like you didn’t give birth at all.
If you can relate to any of this, the Cesarean Mothers Circle is designed for you.
The next cohort begins Oct. 8, 2024.
Join likehearted and likeminded mothers from around the world who are healing from their undesired, emotionally difficult, or traumatic cesarean birth.
We begin October 8, 2024 at 2:00pm Pacific Time.
Duration: We meet monthly for 90-minutes on Zoom, from 2:00-3:30pm Pacific time.
Frequency: We’ll meet on the second Tuesday of each month, Oct. - Feb. (5 months)
Cost: $40 / month. (Auto-billed monthly for 5 months)
This is a closed group space where you can be held and nurtured in a community of mothers who are on the healing path.
Each call will include trauma-informed grounding exercises, a facilitated area of learning or reflection, and sharing or discussion.
Between sessions, we will stay connected in a private online group.
By enrolling, you will automatically be pre-registered for all sessions and your mode of payment will be charged monthly. If at any time you feel this circle is not a good fit for you, may cancel your subscription, no questions asked; however, no refunds are available for past or missed calls.
New participants will not be added after the first month.
For additional questions, see the FAQs below or contact me directly.
This circle is hosted on Zoom and available to cesarean mothers worldwide.. ,and birthing people worldwide. All calls online via Zoom video conference.
Proposed schedule for Fall 2024:
Month 1 & 2 (Oct 8 & Nov 12) - Birth story processing
Month 3 (Dec 10) - Matrescence & Identity
Month 4 (Jan 14) - Womb healing, belly healing, and sexual healing
Month 5 (Feb 11) - Repair with baby and partner
PLUS two optional bonus calls - Preconception, pregnancy and preparing to birth again (VBAC and Sacred Cesarean). 90-minutes each. Dates TBA. These calls will have a separate fee.
Frequently Asked Questions
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This is my most intimate offering. Enrollment will be capped at 10 participants.
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This group interactive by design.
Attending on a consistent basis helps make it a safe space for people who are exploring emotionally sensitive topics.
While there is no requirement to attend all sessions, I have found that participants receive more benefit circle when they commit to being there.
Of course, life and parenting are busy. If you do miss a call, you will have access to a recording within a few days.
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The subscription makes the circle affordable on a monthly basis without requiring a major financial commitment from you. It also encourages participants to attend the entire series, which helps build cohesion and safety.
Having the same people in the circle each month helps build trust and a strong relational field.
The membership allows me to reserve your spot and keep the group small.
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Currently, I don’t accept new enrollments after our first session has started.
Making this a closed group allows us to have a shared set of group agreements which helps create more safety.
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Being in an intentional group space with others who can empathize is supportive for anyone, regardless of how much work they've done to heal.
Only you know if this is right for you.
Birthing people have joined this circle at all stages postpartum and at all stages of their healing journey - from 2 weeks after their cesarean birth to multiple years.
Your willingness to show up with an open heart and mind will create a positive, healing experience for you.
It’s important to know that participants will be invited to share parts of their birth story in some sessions. Ideally, you are in a place with your healing where you can hear and hold some level of space for other people’s experiences (even if imperfect).
It might be helpful if you are also able to talk about some of your own experiences, but this is not required.
Most people will become emotional in this group (crying or other types of emotive upset)- which is so healthy and important. The key is knowing/learning how to be with ourselves (and others) when we get upset - knowing that feeling our emotions is healthy and safe. And learning to come back to our center when we get dysregulated. These are invaluable skills for healing.
We will learn many techniques for tracking and regulating our own nervous systems that will help us navigate the more difficult moments that may arise.
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If you had a planned cesarean that had an impact on you - whether you consider that impact birth trauma, grief, sadness, or you're not even sure, this is a safe place to work through your experiences.
I commit to ensuring a judgment-free space for all participants, regardless of birthing choices or circumstances.
All birth matters. All birth choices are valid. Your experience matters and you deserve care, empathy, support, and attunement. Period.
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Absolutely not. This circle serves a different purpose from therapy and is designed to help you build a sense of belonging, relational safety, and community as you recover from a difficult or traumatic birth.
You will learn techniques and be exposed to different modalities that might help you on your healing path.
You will also learn from each other and find great solace in knowing that we are all connected by a shared thread.
If you have birth trauma - flashbacks about your birth, intrusive thoughts, extreme sadness or grief, or cannot think or talk about birth without becoming highly emotional and dysregulated - I highly recommend that you also seek the support of a therapist who specializes in trauma healing, ideally birth trauma in particular.
If you’d like help finding a therapist, please feel free to contact me.
I am not a therapist or a medical professional and do not give medical or psychiatric advice. This group can serve as a beautiful supplement to therapy; many of our participants have therapists in addition to participating in this group. Others do not. Everyone is different. You know yourself best.